Campus dating should be one of the best parts of college — not a source of anxiety. Cray gives every student the tools, knowledge, and community support to navigate modern relationships with confidence.
Manipulative and harmful behaviors almost always follow recognizable patterns. The more you know what to look for, the harder they are to miss.
Overwhelming you with affection, attention, and gifts early in a relationship to create emotional dependency before revealing controlling behavior.
Gradually cutting you off from friends and family to increase dependency and reduce your access to outside perspectives or support.
Causing you to question your own memory, perception, or reality — making you doubt what you experienced or feel "crazy" for reacting the way you did.
Details about their life, past, or circumstances that don't add up or change over time — a reliable early indicator of deception or identity fabrication.
Treating jealousy as proof of love rather than a warning sign — using it to justify monitoring your behavior, contacts, or whereabouts.
Pushing for emotional, physical, or financial commitment far faster than the relationship warrants — a common tactic used to lock in attachment before trust is established.
Repeatedly pushing against limits you've expressed — often framed as playfulness or affection — to normalize the gradual erosion of your boundaries over time.
Using your empathy against you by framing normal, healthy decisions as evidence that you don't care — creating a cycle where your needs always come second.
Unusual vagueness about where they live, who they know, what they do, or their relationship history — especially when it persists as the relationship deepens.
Run a behavioral report on anyone you're dating or considering dating — no professional background required. Cray translates your observations into a structured, science-backed assessment in minutes.
No download needed. Cray's web app works on iOS, Android, and desktop — so you can run a report before a first date, not after a bad one.
Open Web App →Cray's Dating Safety Events give student organizations a research-backed, genuinely engaging program that makes relationship safety a conversation people actually want to have.
An interactive, facilitated experience designed for sororities, fraternities, and student organizations — using the Cray app to make learning personal, practical, and memorable. No awkward lectures. Real talk that actually sticks.
Cray's signature facilitated activity — 53 real-world scenarios where participants decide if a behavior is a red flag, and why. Sparks honest conversation without putting anyone on the spot.
Walk participants through a live report using the Cray web app — showing them exactly how behavioral patterns get identified and what the results actually mean.
Ready to bring Cray to your campus? We'll help you plan the event, provide facilitator materials, and ship merch for giveaways.
Get in Touch Event Guide PDFThe Cray Bar Safety Package brings dating safety awareness into the spaces where students socialize — not just the classroom.
NightCapIt drink cover stickers — in partnership with NightCapIt co-founder Shirah Benarde — to help prevent drink tampering at bars and events.
Cray-branded coasters with QR codes linking to the app — right at the table, right when it's relevant.
Safety awareness posters for bar and venue bathrooms — meeting students in a private moment where they're most likely to stop and read.
Cray-branded shot glasses for event giveaways — a functional, memorable take-home that keeps the brand and the message top of mind.
Want Cray merch for your event or venue?
Browse giveaway items, apparel, and bar safety products in our store — or contact us to discuss bulk ordering for campus events.
Run a free Cray report today — or bring a Dating Safety Event to your campus. Either way, you'll leave knowing more than you did before.
